When Women Are Torn From the Circle
On Bullying, Sovereignty, and Returning to Right Relation
At Nala Native, we work with land, memory, and meaning.
We believe skin is not separate from story.
That language carries power.
That's how we speak to one another.
And that women, especially women who are becoming more visible, more rooted, more sovereign, are often met not with curiosity, but with dismissal.
This is not new.
And it is not accidental.
Bullying doesn’t always look loud
Much of the harm women experience does not arrive as overt cruelty.
It arrives quietly:
as mockery disguised as humour
as contempt framed as “just a question”
as a reduction of depth into something trivial
as dismissal instead of dialogue
When a woman speaks from a place of meaning, land, ritual, ethics, and identity, and is met with ridicule rather than respect, something has been breached.
Not an opinion.
A relationship.
Why do women tear other women down
When women tear other women down, it is rarely about disagreement.
More often, it comes from:
unprocessed shame
Comparison turned inward
fear of growth in others
discomfort with sovereignty, symbolism, or authority
Rather than sit with that discomfort, it is exported.
Depth is mocked.
Language is ridiculed.
Meaning is reduced.
This keeps women cautious.
Quiet.
Second-guessing.
And it keeps old hierarchies intact.
Boundaries are a form of self-respect
At Nala Native, we believe boundaries are not aggression.
Ending a conversation that turns contemptuous is not a sign of weakness.
Refusing to engage with bad faith is not avoidance; it is a principled stance.
Choosing dignity over reaction is not silence; it is clarity.
In nature, boundaries exist everywhere:
The skin holds
The bark protects
The shoreline defines where land meets sea
Boundaries are how systems stay healthy.
The culture we choose to stand for
We do not need to agree with every woman.
We do not need to share every worldview.
But we do choose a culture where:
Women are allowed to evolve
Language is treated with care
Ideas are engaged without attacking identity
Growth is met with respect, not resentment
We choose a culture where women are not punished for depth.
Strength, redefined
True strength does not need contempt.
It does not need the last word.
It does not need to reduce another woman to feel secure.
Strength looks like:
inner work, not projection
discernment, not domination
walking away rather than striking out
allowing others to stand in their own authority
Returning to the circle
Nala means earth.
And earth teaches us this:
Everything thrives in balance.
Nothing flourishes in contempt.
If you have ever been dismissed for your language, your depth, or your connection to something older than trends, you are not imagining it.
You are remembering.
And you are allowed to take up space.
To speak with meaning.
To return, again and again, to right relation.
This is the culture we choose.
This is the ground we stand on.
With care,
Aimee
